As a mother as well as a sleep consultant who works with countless babies and toddlers, I’ve come to the conclusion that babies are complex human beings. Their development and the milestones they reach throughout their first few years of life is nothing short of incredible.
I love this quote about newborns, saying,
“They eat, they crap, they sleep, and if they’re crying they need to do one of the three and they’re having trouble doing it. Real simple.”Matthew McConaughey
And in a way, he’s right. A baby’s vital needs essentially break down into eating, sleeping, and pooping. Their form of communicating an issue with any of those things is through crying.
However, identifying the fact that there is a problem is far, far easier than solving the problem. As parents, that’s what we want to do, solve the problem.
Developmental milestones impact on sleep.
Now, if you’re the parent of a baby who’s learning to crawl, or who’s teething, or just figured out how to roll over, this may come as the least surprising scientific discovery imaginable, but developmental milestones are likely to cause disruptions in a baby’s sleep.
In a 2015 study published in Monographs of the Society for Research in Child Development, researchers looked at the sleep patterns of before they started crawling, while they were learning to crawl, and a few months after learning to crawl. The results stated that, “Along with the overall improvement in sleep consolidation, periods of increased long wake episodes were also manifested; the rise in sleep disruption was temporally linked to crawling onset. The results of the study highlight the dynamic interrelations between domains of development. It indicated that emerging motor skills may involve periods of disrupted sleep, and point to the moderating effect of age.”
Simply put, babies appear to have more nighttime wake-ups around the time that they learn to crawl. (Nighttime wake-ups were monitored by a motion sensor on baby’s ankle. They were only counted if baby was moving around for more than five minutes.)
To quote that same study, “In dynamic systems, downward trends in performance and in behavioral control often mark the emergence of new abilities. This pattern has been identified in diverse domains of infant development including manual reaching, vocal production, and language acquisition.”
So, things may to get worse before they get better. You better believe, when your little one starts learning to talk, you can expect some random chit chat in the middle of the night.”
Teething is another one of the usual suspects when it comes to disruptions in baby’s sleep. If baby’s has sore gums, that discomfort is probably going to make it a little tougher to get to sleep and stay asleep. But do we really know any such thing for sure?
A study from the April, 2000 issue of Pediatrics looked at symptoms that could and could not be attributed to emerging teeth. It found that during the 4 days before a tooth emerged, the day it popped out, and for the three days following, there was a statistical increase in wakefulness and irritability.
The discomfort that comes along with teething explains why it would be disruptive to your child’s sleep.
Much like the rest of us, babies get excited when they start to learn a new skill.
To your baby, learning to roll over, learning to crawl, or learning to talk, elicits pretty much the same response. They get a real thrill out of this newfound ability and they are going to practice it over and over. They’re going to practice in the morning, in the afternoon, and when they wake up in the middle of the night. Their excitement is going to make it a little more difficult for them to get back to sleep.
I often have parents looking for a “solution” in these scenarios. In trying to get their baby’s sleep back on track, they tend to lose consistency. They’ll move bedtimes around, start rocking or feeding baby back to sleep, change up the bedtime routine, anything they think might help.
The best advice I can give you is to hold steady.
You’re probably going to have to go in and soothe your baby a little more often during this period. You may have to help get them out of the uncomfortable positions they manage to get themselves into. And you’ll likely have some frustrating nights where your little one keeps you up with their babbling.
Although you can’t fix the situation, you can make things substantially harder for both you and your baby.
Adopting a bunch of quick-fixes in order to get your baby sleeping quickly when they wake up at night is very likely to end up creating dependencies. Dependencies that last long past the time baby’s figured out how to get themselves readjusted when they wake up in the night. So don’t give in to the temptation to rock or bounce them to sleep. Don’t let them sleep in the swing. Don’t take them for car rides. Above all, don’t nurse or feed them back to sleep. You’ve worked so hard to have them sleeping well without!
- Offer them some comfort
- tell them it’s still bedtime
- help them get back into a comfortable position
- or roll them onto their backs if they’ve flipped
But make sure to let them get back to sleep on their own. That way, once they’ve got this new skill mastered, they’ll still have the ability to self-soothe when they wake up at night.
It’s likely to be a bit of a challenge. It may even feel, at times like one skill gets mastered and another one to start developing, uhg. Hang in there. The whole time this is going on, your baby is also developing the ability to better consolidate nighttime sleep. Stay consistent and you can expect even more of those glorious sleep-filled nights once the storm has passed.